I would like to think that M is past his worst behavior BUT, if there is one thing that sets me off, its his sexual behavior. I can chalk some of it up like he doesn't know better. When he first came to live with us, it was a lot of humping and grinding with hugs. But, that has gone away. What remains is his intense interest in women's breasts. At first, he would ask to be picked up and carried by women, any woman, and then he will constantly and often rub himself against her breasts. He would ask that if he could touch my private parts and when I said no, he would ask if he could watch me touch my private parts. This has been the most difficult.
So, yesterday, as we are walking to a restaurant, he asked if I would carry him because he was tired. I did. And as we walked into the restaurant, he took both his hands and cupped my breast and was about to put my breast in his mouth. My gut reaction was to slap him. I quickly put him down. I couldn't deal with it. So I handed him over to my husband and let my husband deal with him for the rest of the night.
I am sorry that you are going through this. Our son was sexualized at an early age too. Because of our son's history, and his reactions, I believe that your son is victimizing you because he is beginning to care for you, and this is the way he was taught to show affection. Sick as it is. You are a good Mom. "Regular" moms can't understand the constant assault that comes with RAD and the attachment process for kids who are terrified of attaching. (((hugs))) to you.
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