I met with MLRA's therapist on Friday. Horrible news: He is not securely attached. Therapist is worried about MLRA's ability to get better and also worried about my and my husband's mental health if we continue to parent MLRA, without additional manpower. Also suggested bringing in another therapist solely for re-triggering his brain on the sexual stuff. Therapist wanted me to understand that MLRA won't be better in 1, 2 or even 3 years. It could take 5 or 6 years. He is for all intents and purposes a 4 year old alcoholic dealing with triggers and a physical need for alcohol. He is manipulative and needs to be watched around children to assure he doesn't molest other children, even those older than him because of his advanced knowledge of sex.
I explained to her that I was done and wanted to transition him into another living situation. The therapist said that the choices are: 1) placing him in the foster care system. 2) sending him back to his family; 3) institutionalizing him.
Option 1: there is no guarantee of the type of foster parents he will get or that they will be dedicated to his healing. Nor that they will be a permanent placement.
Option 2: he will be with his siblings but not an ideal situation since his 6 year old brother was molesting his 5 year old brother. And his 5 year old brother bit the ear off the family dog last month and found pleasure in it. The 5 year old therapist is also recommending he be institutionalized.
Option 3: the therapist will research and let me know what that means for him.
